Long after dating marry
You truly enjoy being with the person you are with, and want to spend as much as time with them as possible.You miss them when they are not with you and, when you see them again, you get that funny little feeling in your stomach which only love can bring.Most seniors have been through all of this before - and with almost all having been married at least once or at least been in a long term relationship.Accordingly, in general, senior daters possess a far better idea of what they want and what they don’t want from a person and a relationship.In short, senior dating is just like any other type of dating; people meet (possibly through over 50 dating sites or through an introduction by friends), start dating and develop feelings for each other which, in turn, become what we call love!Yet, for seniors this is not the so-called puppy love syndrome.
Oh, and you can know what those faults are and enter into a marriage with open eyes about who you're really marrying. Here are some things that I think should happen before you decide to get engaged, regardless of how long it's been:—You should say "I love you" to one another, and mean it.—You should meet close friends and family members.—You should experience some sort of conflict to see how you both react to stress.—You should disagree about something.—You should know your partner's core as a person.—You should discuss your ideas about money, gender roles, and where you want to live.—You should feel in your gut that you can trust this person.—You should both come first to one another.—You should be able to speak openly and feel respected at all times.—You should feel comfortable about your sexual compatibility and both feel satisfied.
With the benefit of their own experience, senior daters should always remember that building a new long term, midlife relationship romance is not a short term undertaking - after all, most over 50s daters want this new relationship to be their best!
I've said it before and I'll say it again: The fact that Britney Spears and Justin Timberlake did not end up together makes it difficult for me to believe in the institution of marriage at all. The fact that Mary Kay Letourneau and her former student (whom she started very illegally dating in 1996, resulting in jail time) are still together and happily married today, 18 years later. Then, there are Khloe Kardashian and Lamar Odom, who famously got married just one month after they met in 2009.
Going on a date and not knowing the rules because the last date you went on was 20 years ago, can be a really scary thing. Weeding through hundreds of guys who probably want to make a suit of my skin, trying to find that one gem who not only is not a serial killer, but who also chews with his mouth closed can be daunting.
My last date before I got married was at a time when people didn’t have computers or smart phones. Only doctors had mobile phones and they were as big as a shoe box! And which of the trillions of online dating sites should you use? The first time I saw the commercial for that, I thought it was an skit! When I first got divorced I felt like I couldn’t do anything. I didn’t know how to change my furnace filter, change the string on the weed whacker or fix my washing machine when it started leaking all over.